“Well the beauty of 'Iyanla: Fix My Life' is that men are in every show. To our surprise, some of the deepest healing demonstrations have been with the men - the sons, the fathers, the husbands - because they agree to participate with the wife or the daughter or whatever it is we are looking at, and it is there.”
“You've got to know what your 'thing' is, and you've got to call it a 'thing,' whether it's meanness, nastiness, un-forgiveness, arrogance, ego, resistance, rebelliousness or defiance. Everybody's got a 'thing,' and once you call your 'thing' a 'thing,' we can give it a place to be or dismiss it.”
“Gossip is when you have a malice of intent or mindless, third-party conversation to someone about someone, something you haven't said to that someone.”
“You know that you've healed an issue when you can talk about it and you're not weeping, when you can speak to it and identify the lesson. You know that you've healed an issue when, having gone through that, has a benefit that you live today.”
“Why can't women get along? Because we're afraid. We're afraid to be vulnerable. We're afraid to be soft. We're afraid to be hurt. But most of all, we're afraid of our power. So we become controlling and aggressive and vicious.”
“Be willing to share all of who you are. So many of us want a partner, but we're not willing to show all of us.”
“Pain is pain, hurt is hurt, fear is fear, anger is anger, and it has no color.”
“All things are lessons that God would have us learn.”
“If you're not willing to let your partner see your cellulite or know your biggest fears, then you aren't really ready to share yourself.”
“I surround people in unconditional acceptance and love to such a degree that everything that is unloving about them rises to the surface.”